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When you start seminal retention and go on the path of sexual cultivation, things change.  In the previous article, we looked at how to go about handling our powerful sexual desires.  No longer do we have to feel obliged to give into them with masturbation or intercourse.  It does not distract us.  The allure of the feminine no longer takes us away from out mission.

All of this happens within the first 3-7 days.

The next phase occurs during days 7-10.  It is a shift from the physical to the emotional.

For myself, I have noticed that I find the greatest emotional health when I have practiced for at least 10 days, reaching a powerful plateau at around day 30.  I have also noticed that following ejaculation, we lose all of the strength, we lose some of my spine.

In other words, when we ejaculate, men are more prone to displaying neediness, loneliness, victim mentality, freezing in the face of fear, and weak leadership.

On the other hand, when you develop our strength with seminal retention, you’ll grow in three main areas:

  1. The ability to stop everything and become centered.  What I consider a key skill in life.  When you are able to focus with definite precision.  Most of it becomes effortless.  The ability to get into the zone and become present and focused on what is in front of you.  Think about how much you have accomplished when in this state.  Think about all of the good things that have unfolded with women because she could sense this inside of you.
  2. The ability to dig deep and call on an extra 10% of sustainable emotional power.  Sometimes we have to dig deep and find that little big extra.  The challenge of competition and sport.  The killer instinct in our training.  The challenge of confronting real-life issues in our relationships.  The stamina to fuck a woman’s brains out.  Ejaculation makes our reserves feel empty.  When you retain your seed, the fuel in your fire will feel like it is overflowing.  With the right discipline, you can grind it out, harder, faster and longer.
  3. The strength to confront your weaknesses and vulnerabilities.  When we cannot look at ourselves in the mirror, we are living in a world of bullshit.  This is scary for us.  Often we feel ourselves in the verge of crumbling.  We build ourselves up, tell rich tales  to overcompensate to impress our friends.  We tell stories about ourselves to impress women.  Nobody is impressed.  They all see through it.  I believe that you strength as a man begins with your ability to confront your own weakness.  Confront his own bullshit.  When you find the strength of seminal retention, you build the support to hold the fort.  You can dip in and see what’s in there.  The thoughts of not-being-good-enough are no longer daunting for you.  Your fear of abandonment does not have to control you.  You have a place to retreat to, a place to come home to.  And that home is a place of emotional power and strength;  you alone built it.

When I first began my journey teaching myself the ins and outs of seminal retention, I reached forward with only a faint idea what I was looking for.  It was a daunting prospect, that there was a way to enhance the sexual energy my body permeated.  The idea that there was so much more in my potential.

5 years later, and I can say I have a much deeper understanding of my body, able to harness my powerful sexual desires, and create a healthier self-image physically, emotionally and sexually.  Taking hold of our sexual energy gives men our spine, something that we can find missing in our lives.  Instead of posturing, huffing and puffing with our chests pushed out, we find a quiet, deep, peaceful power that radiates from inside our chests.  A heart-felt masculine power.

For beginners, it can be overwhelming if we dive into the literature.  We can be flooded with a fall of articles, books and techniques.  I find it is best to keep it simple:

Don’t ejaculate for 3-7 days and feel how your body responds.

Feel what it is like to have your sexual energy build.

Typically, this will be very difficult.  Men today tend to masturbate to pornography whenever the faintest urge arises.  It tends to be a quiet, solo affair that lasts for a few minutes.  It’s called a “genital sneeze”.  It can give us relief from our sexual desire, but it does not give us the deep satisfaction that we ultimately crave.  Instead, it can leave us empty and deflated.  You know what I’m talking about.

So, don’t ejaculate for a week, and see what happens.

Most likely, the urges and desires will become overwhelming.  You will be flooded with constant thoughts for sexual relief.  It will keep you awake at night, torn and stressed.  Emotionally you will feel vulnerable, worn out.  I remember the first time I did this, panting and crazed.  A female friend of mine observed my torture.  I remember saying to her,

“I would kill a priest in a church if I could get 20 minutes of head.”

To which she replied, “It would have to be GOOD head”, licking her lips with a mischievous grin.  Go figure.

Most of the time, we don’t want to admit to ourselves that we can be overcome by this rising explosion of desire.  It takes over our thoughts, our emotions.  We feel guilty and ashamed that we cannot control ourselves.  We hide it for fear of being reprimanded.  Society does not appreciate such a raw, unrefined sexual power.  So it’s either masturbate or suffer.

Seminal retention is the way to  find control and refinement over our sexual selves.  By doing so, you can find your deep, primal and noble power as a man.

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Us men carry a secret.

Deep down we’re scared.

It’s a faint, niggling fear.  It happens every time we speak to a woman.  In particular, that powerful, sexually overwhelming woman.  You know the one.  The one with the poise, the swagger in her hips.  The one who can tear us apart with her brutal, destructive sexual force.  Her limbs, her beautiful red lips, and her penetrating eyes.  She is engorged with luscious, burning desire.

We fear that we will be devoured by her fiery essence.

That is the foundation of sexual cultivation.  It builds the centre of your masculine power.  With it, you can stand in your power, effortless, unmoving.  A strength that you know you should hold as a man.  The one that we all pose, that poise we pitch in overcompensation.  Yes, that visceral bastion of strength, the one you know she respects.

That is why we need to practice this.  As men.